To have a shoulder to lean on when hard moments come is a true blessing, especially for a woman. Sooner or later a time comes when we have to look for a partner, even just for the sake of having someone to snuggle and laugh with.
Choosing a life partner is one of the most important matters in a person’s life and it’s not like choosing what to wear the next day.
Sure, nobody ever said that finding your soulmate was an easy thing, but it doesn’t have to be that hard too. We believe that there are certain characteristics that can show whether or not the person is right for you, which is why we decided to make a list of them in this article.
What to Look for in a Life Partner
We’re not saying that you should start planning a wedding as soon as you get a new boyfriend, or even just think of him as a life partner, but wouldn’t it be best if he met the criteria?
Here is how to know if a partner could potentially be your soulmate.
Look Beyond What You See
Don’t get us wrong – looks are important when you’re choosing a lifelong partner. After all, love is chemistry, but don’t rely on chemistry only.
There should be something more than looks that cause attraction between the two of you. Looks are a temporary thing, while personality traits and qualities are long-lasting and they form the basis of a good relationship.
Don’t Force it
There are so many moments in life when we have to pretend and put on a mask just to be socially acceptable. Being together with your partner shouldn’t feel forced. Your partner should be your safe haven.
Conversations should flow naturally and you should be able to talk about anything that interests you without feeling like you’re not saying the right things.
Find a Connection
Speaking of conversations, you need to have common topics with your partner if you want to form a strong bond. Whether it’s music and art, movies, a particular hobby, or anything else, you need to be able to talk about the things you are most passionate about.
Otherwise, you will soon start feeling like you two are from two different planets.
See Where you Don’t Connect
Of course, it’s natural that there will be some dissimilarities between the two of you. Before fully committing to a partner, make sure you spend enough time with him to see what the differences between you two are.
There could be differences that you could easily accept in the name of your love and relationship, but there could also be some dealbreakers, and the sooner you notice these, the better.
Small Things Give you Away
The small things say a lot about what kind of a person somebody is.
Be attentive in the very beginning. If you notice a small thing that’s a red flag, don’t close your eyes to it.
For example, if you notice that the person doesn’t hold the door for you, that might be a small thing, but it speaks a lot. It is a sign of his general manners and attitude towards other people, and if that shows in the very beginning, it’s not going to get better later on.
If he does well on this test, only then can you move on to the next part.
Look for a Partner with a Similar Background
In romantic movies we often see two people with completely different life standards get together, but in real life, that rarely works.
A person’s background has a large role in shaping his personality. If your lifestyles and backgrounds are vastly different, it is possible that after the initial emotions fade off, you will end up feeling like complete strangers.
He Should Build You Up Not Tear You Down
What’s the point of the relationship if you’re better off alone than with the person?
The whole idea is to support each other and help each other become the best version of yourselves.
If you feel like the person is not supporting your plans, goals, and dreams, there is no point in staying together with him. There will come a time when you will need emotional or even financial support and your partner should be the first one who is there for you.
Don’t Underestimate a Good Sense of Humor
Life is wonderful, but it can also be tough. That’s what our partner is here for – to make it more bearable.
You will want somebody who can cheer you up after a long day and take the weight off your shoulders by laughing off unpleasant situations.
A good sense of humor is also a sign of intelligence, and laughter is the best medicine, so find yourself someone who can make you laugh.